When was the last time you felt so deeply in love?
Perhaps life has been hard on you lately and falling in love is far from what you feel right now. This one’s for you.
I remember it clearly. My wedding day. My wife was walking down the aisle and I was waiting by the altar. As she came nearer and nearer, I struggled to hold back my tears, while I sang a song I made for her. I choked (literally)! I couldn’t finish the song. I felt a lump in my throat and my eyes welled up in tears as my heart exploded with joy and inexplicable gratefulness. It was a good thing my brother-in-law Anton knew the song and wonderfully carried on. When I held her hand, I knew I was in love. No, not only at the emotional level. I was in love, knowing there was something beyond the feeling. It was divine, it was sacramental. I knew I wanted this forever.
I recall what Fr. Pedro Arrupe, S.J. wrote:
Nothing is more practical than finding God, than falling in Love in a quite absolute, final way. What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything. It will decide what will get you out of bed in the morning, what you do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, whom you know, what breaks your heart, and what amazes you with joy and gratitude. Fall in Love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.
God has instilled in us the capacity to love. It is what unites us to Him. Love is God in us. Being in love also applies to our work and to our service. Mother Teresa said, “Do small things with great love.”
What if we don’t like what we are doing? We know it’s necessary, but it’s one of those things we’re just not good at. We can adopt the Ignatian Spirituality of “finding God in all things.” Yes, you know it. God dwells in everything. Even in that task you dread so much. Even in the boss who is so difficult to follow. Even in the client that you find so hard to please. Yes, even in the paperwork, He is there. If God is there, and if we love God, we can indeed do small things with great love.
More importantly, being a person in love, makes a good Christian witness. Pope Francis says:
When we live out a spirituality of drawing nearer to others and seeking their welfare, our hearts are opened wide to the Lord’s greatest and most beautiful gifts. Whenever we encounter another person in love, we learn something new about God. (Evangelii gaudium 272)
Love is so beautiful that not one of us expresses it in the same way. Our unique way of showing love is irreplicable. Only you can love your spouse, your family and your friends the way you do. Only you can love your work the way you do. The love you give is special. Never doubt its beauty. It is God infused in your heart and expressed tangibly. Therefore, when you share God’s love to others, it blesses them in a new and refreshing way.
When we are not in love, we cannot persuade people. Not at work, not at service, and not even at home. This is affirmed by Pope Francis:
A person who is not convinced, enthusiastic, certain and in love, will convince nobody. (Evangelii gaudium 266)
A person in love talks passionately about what he does, because love’s nature is to be shared. It cannot be hidden, because love is free.
If you find it hard to be in love lately, find God first. You don’t have to look far. He is within you. God waits like a bridegroom for his bride. So in love. Take God’s hand and know that His love is forever, that in faith you may respond, “I found him whom my heart loves.” (The Song of Songs 3: 4)
Lord, rekindle my heart, make it burn in love with you once again. Give me the strength and the grace to do small things with great love, so I may honor you in the work that I do, and love others the way you do. Amen.
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